Keeping Up Appearances

As humans and as Christians, we are always trying to keep up our appearance. We all want to be perceived in a certain way that makes us look better than we actually are. We want people to think we’re talented, deep, or righteous and we do what we can to project an idealized version of ourselves for everyone else to see. Isn’t that what Facebook is? All the pictures that make us look good but none of the ones where we look horrible? All of the statuses that make us seem deep or witty but none of the real thoughts in our minds that may make people not like us? Facebook is just an idealized version of ourselves. That’s why we’re all addicted to it. We can be whoever we want.

However, we all know it’s not the truth. We can see right through each other and know that there is just as much pain, sin, and brokenness in each others lives as our own.

We’re not as awesome as we’d like to think we are.

But isn’t that good news? It means that we’re not perfect and neither is anyone else. It means that the moment we’re real and honest about that, we don’t have to be held to a standard of perfection. We can be honest about who we are and that’s okay.

That’s why it’s important to be vulnerable. We can see each other for who we really are and we don’t have to hide behind false identities for people to like us. When people stumble we can help them back up, when people succeed we can applaud them without being jealous, and when people make a mistake we can forgive them.

Only when we give up our idealized versions of ourselves and be vulnerable can we truly live in a community of grace.

So give it up. You’re not as cool as you think you are, and neither am I.